It is no secret that honesty is an invaluable capital in this life. We have a lot to see some examples of people with success and happiness they feel because they hold fast to honesty, until there is a proverb which says that "If you're honest, you'll Lucky". Although impressed cliche, but the fact is indeed the case.
But a very great moral values are slowly begun to fade at this time due to exposure-exposure which is not really crucial in this life as a result of our own shadow like out of fear, because the presumption will be spared the trouble and a strong reason to lie . And if we want to look in the mirror, dishonesty will bring us to the brink of new and add to the problems that really do not need to happen if we can be honest. However, due to pressure and whisper desires, we too are willing to do that to feel that dishonesty is something commonplace and ordinary.
If we want to review about lies, then a necessary condition is not easy. In addition to intonation, expression, expression and reflection of the belief there should be an equally important requirement is that we should have a very long memory. Why take a very long memory? Due to lie usually without us knowing we will forget our words an hour ago, six hours ago, a day ago, a month ago, a year ago, etc., so that the consistency of the story or the words we say will change, because we did not feel directly in another sense we are just making it up. This is intolerable for a man accustomed to honest because he needed a mask to cover a rottenness. Though these dishonest people who know that one day, what would be uncovered hidden by it, sooner or later. However, due to call the passions and his ego, he also forgot it until getting mired in an endless circle of lies.
Next let us study about the reasons someone does dishonesty in life:
1. Dishonesty that caused by fear
As a social creature who is perfect, in addition given a full member of the body with various functions, we are also given gifts by God in the form of sense and mind, so that we too were given the grace to become leaders in this world because of the gift of Him who has given them. However, sometimes we often forget what God has given to us so that the force is lower than an animal. This can happen if we too follow the passions so forget logic and reality of life that ultimately will diminish the values of the intrinsic truth.
The attitude of dishonesty that caused by fear is actually a reflection of ourselves we would distrust the power of God. Why is that? Because of these attitudes without us knowing it has brought us to the attitude of "suspicion" to God as a result of our own shadow that would not necessarily happen in real life. For example, for instance when there is an invitation to a reunion of school friends. With the arrival of the invitation would carry the memory a few years ago regarding our behavior while undergoing education in schools. Flavor miss meeting with my friends arms and want to know their development, brings a passion to come and meet with them. But that desire may fade because of fears by his own shadow like for fear of not regarded by his old friends caused by the exercise of profession, because of the poor, because of unemployment, because it has no vehicle, afraid ignored, fear of rejection, fear undermined, fear is considered bad , fear and the fear of another exiled as a result of what he imagined himself, eventually became busy thinking about the bad things that do not necessarily occur. Those thoughts unconsciously handcuff us until we too do the things that really do not need to do is lie to the limited term and was not present at the meeting for the long term until we feel that we fit with our own shadow. Attitude is a big loss because we had been defeated by the thoughts and opinion of those who are created by our own so that removing the desire to stay in touch with each other.
At this moment dishonesty become a commodity that can be justified as a shortcut in defeating the fear created by themselves. Sometimes because these shadows, we are able to apply not honest with lying, cheating, stealing, raise the value of a project, corruption, justifies any means, deceive, bulldoze own friends, and other bad behavior that keeps us from the values of the ultimate truth. Just because a fear not considered, fear underestimated, not to have fear, fear of being isolated, fear of failure, fear of losing, fear of being poor, fear of poverty, fear of falling powers, etc., causing us to fall in the mud endless lies, ignorance, cunning, and justifies any means to overcome this fear, despite knowing that with such an attitude would only make them bury deep in their own image until they terminate a fortune because people are not going to believe in what he's talking about.
2. Dishonesty because it would avoid the difficulties
This case can we meet in our lives. Many people who do this for reasons of urgency and be able to avoid trouble. Take the example is a case of forgery of diplomas. This case does not only happen at lower levels, but at the top level we find many of these cases. Recently uncovered a syndicate of cases involving counterfeiters diplomas of various circles both individual and perpetrator of education itself. And the case of the most phenomenal is that there are board members who forged diplomas only to qualify as a member of the council in the election. It's ironic incident, considering it a trivial one obtains the "certificate" even though he did not go to school.
In the beginning maybe the board members are survivors of trouble thanks to tricks that did. Like a Harry Potter, by saying "So diploma", then he too has a fake diploma that is used to nominate himself. But along with the development time, and after the cross-check, then uncovered the mask itself. He was not only lose their rights as members of the board, but the hotel without cost anything (Prison-Red) waiting for him because of cases of fraud. It was very oppressive to see this fact, because he was dishonest rather than reduce the difficulty, even more added difficulty produced so that their lives worse off and ends with a long-suffering.
3. Dishonesty because of the strong reasons
Without realizing it, this behavior often we do as long as there is strong reason to them. Take the example because it requires the job when we interviewed stated that we are really like a new challenge, have the skills required, have innovation in work, love of work on offer, with the hope will be hired, when in fact we do not like it all. Until after the accepted work, the results are less satisfactory, so we hire boss was disappointed until we too have lost their jobs. Another example is when we are in the office, then look at the office of unused goods, then we too wrapped up with a reflex that stuff, because it considers that the goods were not used and we can use. Another example because you want to use by employers, we provide a false report that please them so that they feel satisfied with our work, when what was reported was limited to empty delusion that we are not doing.
There are many reasons that justify such dishonesty in doing so we feel that such activity is an activity that is familiar and reasonable in order to satisfy our passions, until nothing will be done so that all that can be realized.
How Great Your Honesty level.
It is easy to measure how much our honesty, because of the barrier parameter that sets it apart. Is it the parameters? The answer is the conscience. Why conscience? Because no matter how small the lie that we make, conscience say that it is doing wrong!! Why is that? Due to the nature of the God-given to us so that we can distinguish what is right and wrong. Conscience often tells us the truth and the actions we have done. If we do what we say does not match the action, then conscience gives the signal does not agree with what we say. Likewise with our actions that are contrary to moral values that we profess, the conscience itself gives a sense of disapproval with what we do. It's just disagreement that we will obey or break us, it depends how much we are able to withstand the passions passion, desire and ego that we have. Are we able to fight or we become slaves? The choice is up to us.
Another thing that can we reflect on the question of honesty is no other is our own perspective. Because of a lack of knowledge, insight and knowledge, sometimes we often see that the world was extremely narrow, as narrow our thinking or in other words is that the values of the world was limited to what we know and we understand. With the emergence of mind, of course, will damage the harmony in our lives. When the recesses of the heart was covered by a negative potential, then it is a reflection of our own self-reflection that have them. The size of the negative potential was highly dependent on how much we are able to fight it with positive thoughts. For example in our lives is often difficult to trust people, it is a picture of ourselves that "maybe" we often do not honest with other people so that we too do not want to be treated the same. One more example, if we are a fraud, then our minds are often loaded with feelings of fear of being deceived, people often lie would be suspicious if he had lied. In other words, if we do too often negative, then the impact that we feel in life is a negative energy to create the feeling restless and agitated prolonged because of fear that always enveloped us in life.
Unlike those who always cling to honesty. They will not feel any fear for his actions because it is always guided by the values inherent in carrying out all his life. They will always act firmly and straight in defending what he believes. Not afraid of being betrayed, isolated, suspected, neglected, and despised by others because it is a provision of God who has given to mankind to always be honest. The value of honesty is always bitter and less reassure, but always sweet fruit in the end. Smart-smart we hide the carcass (deceit, evil-red), a time will smell as well as in the end. That expression of the wisdom in addressing the need we hold fast to honesty in life underlies and wading. The challenge to uphold the value of honesty in contemporary times is very heavy. Amid the brunt of the values of capitalism and liberalism as well as the pressure and demands of "success" in material form, then honesty becomes sidelined. People are competing to achieve reliability in life by not thinking longer be all bad, though should be a way to lie, the home looks "successful" then anything will do. Is this really value us? And honesty is a very large capital in this life sailing without us knowing it. So now time for us to reflect and think about all our actions whether we have done a variety of fairness in every occasion in our lives? In carrying out any mandate entrusted? Or we have been lulled by the values of the establishment, and material that becomes the purpose of our lives until we forget the essential values that have been mandated by God to us? Only we who know the answer. We hope to inspire us all.